Question:
I have been texting and praying for each of our grandchildren since I attended your workshop at Summit. One of our granddaughters, who is 20 years old and away at college, has completely ghosted me for a couple of months.
In my texts, I wasn’t too religious as I know her family has decided to be atheists. I’ve kept up my weekly text to let her know I’m thinking of her, but I see she isn’t even opening my texts! Now I’m not sure how to proceed. Should I stop? This breaks my heart.
Response:
I am so sorry to hear this and understand why this feels heartbreaking for you.
Apparently, the texting isn’t working so it doesn’t make sense to continue to do that. You might try to write a letter to your granddaughter, expressing your love for her and what you treasure about her. You could even send a care package to her college filled with things that you know she likes.
If you get no response, I encourage you to keep praying for your granddaughter and writing her letters but don’t send them. Instead, keep them. 20 years old is still relatively young and she has many years to grow and change, during which she may want to communicate with you more. If so, at that time, you can share the letters with your granddaughter to show how you have been thinking about her over the years.
Remember that prayers have no expiration date so pray for God to soften her heart toward you as well as comfort you while you are not with her. Pray too that God will provide Christians in her life who can encourage and disciple her.
