I recently received an email from a grandmother who asked me to pray with her because she was estranged from her granddaughter. Her heart was broken, and she was having a very difficult time dealing with the situation–not an uncommon experience for many grandparents today.
In the mid-life of our lives, it’s perfectly normal to look forward to becoming grandparents. There are few things more exciting than the birth of our first grandchild. In fact, the birth of every grandchild is an amazing and joyous moment. Unfortunately, there are also many grandparents with broken hearts because they are estranged from their children and grandchildren.
Negative emotions are one of the consequences of being estranged from your grandchildren. Sorting out those feelings and developing an approach for dealing with them is vital for your health, both mental and physical. On the one hand, anguish is a constant companion when you find yourself estranged from those precious grandchildren you love so deeply. On the other hand, you are better able to understand a tiny bit of what our Heavenly Father feels about all those who are separated from Him.
However, God is still answering prayers, even if it is not on our timetable. So, we ask God for patience to wait until He is ready to answer. Sometimes we have to wait in His waiting room while He is working in the hearts of our grandchildren and their parents. God’s timing is always best. Do you believe that?
I have found the passage in Romans 8:26-28 very helpful when I don’t know how to pray for my grandchildren and their parents. Paul writes, “The Holy Spirit makes intercession for us when we don’t know how to pray.” When I ask the Holy Spirit to make intercession for me according to God’s will, it keeps me from telling God how to answer my prayer, which I am prone to do. Ask the Holy Spirit to make intercession for your estrangement, and let Him carry the burden instead of you. Let go of your agenda and ask Him to show you His.
Here are two suggestions for estranged grandparents:
- Don’t give up. Keep trying to gently stay in touch. Send cards and letters to your grandchildren keeping the tone of any communication loving, but light.
- Pray intentionally and regularly for your grandchildren and their parents. If you don’t know how to pray for them, I invite you to sign up for my weekly prayer blog. When you sign up I will send you 31 Scriptures to Pray for your Grandchildren which you may download and print for free.
Prayer
Dear Father, I pray You will give estranged grandparents wisdom to know how to face their separation from their grandchildren. I pray Your Holy Spirit will make intercession for them trusting You to carry out Your agenda in Your timing for their healing. Encourage them and give them peace as they intentionally pray and patiently wait for the parents to allow them to be a part of their lives again.
In Jesus’ name. Amen
70 thoughts on “Are You Estranged from Your Grandchildren?”
I haven’t seen my adult grandson for almost two years and only heard his voice once. I have tried to contact him but he won’t respond. I am going crazy. My heart is broken and nothing I have attempted has resulted in communication.
I feel so helpless and useless as a human being, I love the Lord but am having trouble accepting my grandson has gone out of my life. I miss him terribly. At least the boy I once knew. He is my only grandchild.
I’m sorry you’re hurting. May God heal your relationship. That’s what I keep asking for
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Hi! I have 3 Adult Grandchildren, and after they moved out on their own, they seem to have the attitude that now that they are adults, that they can just reject and stop communicating with the older adults in their life, even if those of us, who have been kind to them as they were growing up, Yes, there was trouble between my Grandchildren and their Parents, but they had always gotten along with their Grandparents including me. Now that they are on their own, they have not returned any of my calls, nor acknowledged any of my gifts or cards, or letters that I have sent to them, this has been going on for almost 2 years now, and I cannot take it. I am considering stopping all communication from my side, if I stop sending them cards, gifts, letters, and I stop calling them until after they call me or show some interest in communicating with me, maybe they will finally understand how I feel, and what it feels like to really be rejected, that will teach them to stop complaining that they had felt rejected by their Parents, and then they have the nerve to reject me, their Grandmother, after I have shown them kindness over the years.
May God give your wisdom and discernment as to how to proceed forward with keeping in touch with your adult grands. We are sorry you are experiencing this terrific heartache.
Sinto muito..também eu estou passando pelo mesmo problema… o meu neto de 18 anos não quer falar comigo e nem responde as minhas mensagens nunca nem atende o telemóvel…muito doloroso, ele não tem tempo para mim, nem 5 minutos. A minha filha não ajuda nada a aproximar o meu neto de mim, até parece que gosta da situação.,, enfim
Do not give up, stay ready and available. Above all, pray for reconciliation and restoration. May God minister to your heart.
Youngsters don’t always find it important to stay in touch with their relatives. We haven’t seen or heard from my nephew since 2015 when my sister passed away. It made my mother very sad but now, 10 years later, since she has mild dementia, she rarely mentions his name. They’re too busy living their lives. Their interests are mostly dedicated to dating. Most of them only start wanting to see the estranged relatives after their 40´s.
Our hearts are with you. Try to be patient. It’s not your fault.
I’m also in a very complicated situation and when I start to dwell on it, I try to focus on things that make me happy.
Be strong!
The most important words here are ‘its not your fault’
mi hija hace 2 años nos dejó de hablar a mi su madre y a su unica hermana .nos blokeo de todo contacto y no podemos ver mis nietos..su papá vive con ella y su hermana la más chica conmigo y el papa o sea mi exesposo..tampoco le habla a nuestra hija la que vive conmigo…y la causa fue el ..que les puedo contar que tengo 2 años llorando dia tras dia
May God fill you with peace and hope as you seek His Word and the community of other believers. May God send others to uplift you.
Sinto muito..também eu estou passando pelo mesmo problema… o meu neto de 18 anos não quer falar comigo e nem responde as minhas mensagens nunca nem atende o telemóvel…muito doloroso, ele não tem tempo para mim, nem 5 minutos. A minha filha não ajuda nada a aproximar o meu neto de mim, até parece que gosta da situação.,, enfim
My daughter is holding my grandchildren against me its going on four years, My 18 year old grandson said he no longer considers me a grandparent, and my 17 year old granddaughter has mentioned to me that I blew it as a grandparent, and my youngest who is now 13 was told that I had passed away. I helped raise these children who lived with me for 3 years while their parents were unemployed I help put a roof over their heads and cloths on their backs and food on their table, while my daughter in return pick up something against me and has decided that I am no longer welcome to mingle with her family. I really need prayers especially during the holidays. I cant stop from crying and the depression is overwhelming
Vida, I hope this is better, now. My daughter has been doing the same thing for about 10 months now. Her and my grandsons lived with me for 8 years – most of the youngest’s life. They are 12 and 10. She does not want me to even know her baby who is now 1. I can certainly feel for you. I think the best thing we can do is pray for them… know the enemy is truly at work, but will not win. I text them every week or two… and text my daughter every now and then and ask if I can see them. It’s usually “no”, but yesterday she said they could spend next weekend with me. If she follows through with that, I will see… I have a friend whose daughter has been doing the same thing for the past 4 or 5 years. They say they are followers of Christ, and I do not understand it – other than we are not fighting flesh and blood… praying for you and them.
My heart goes out to you, i have a similar situation. We are not alone, which doesnt make it easier, but gives perspective that others too suffer for no good reason. I am so sorry for your loss and grief with this. It can feel unbearable, I know. I am going to be praying for you when I prayer in my own situation.
Hi my story is much like yours but my grand as on just tuned 2 and i havnt seen him since christmas day last year i dont know what to do
Praying that God will work as only He can, restoring relationships. May God calm your grandma’s heart as you pray.
I am praying for all grandparents that aren’t allowed to be a part of their grandchild’s life. My story is that my Daughter and my Son in Law both killed in a car accident and their 9 month old at the time daughter was the only survivor in this horrible accident that took 4 lives that Christmas Eve afternoon. This happened in Texas where the sister of my Son in Law lives and her non working husband. With the help of my Son in Laws Parents they were able to go behind our back and get custody of our Maternal Granddaughter. And a court order allowed us visitation for the first 12 years but now they have chosen to ignore the court order saying that she doesn’t want to come to OK. They are abiding by her wishes and even in the courts where it stands at this moment, the judge states that she chooses if and when. In the meantime our poor Babe who is now a teenager is just staying super busy probably to not have to think about what is happening. The brain washing we know that she has had to endure just by the times that she did come to visit us just breaks our heart. We were made to sign her away to allow them to adopt her when she was 4 so we could continue to see her. And now we have absolutely no access because of this aunt and uncles threats of a protection order if we try. Obviously this is still an active case. But in this walk we have grown closer to God because we know He has the last word no matter what a Judge says. Our case is unique and with Gods help it will open up clarification in the Laws that will protect Grandparents. We are important in family as God illustrated in His Word and as He meant family to be. God Bless all of you Grandparents out there. Remember always, Eternity is forever and just pray that your Grand Child will know his/her Father God. These horrible parents, step or actual may stop us seeing them and being with them in this earth, but they can’t stop the relationship in Heaven that we will have with them and standing before God and being held accountable for it. God has buckets of my tears, but I will not let go of Him because He is my strength in hell walk.
Stand Strong Sandra! God will give all grandparents who were treated with disregard much Justice. More than we could ever give. Thank you for praying for all the hurting grandparents. Prayer is our greatest weapon to stop the evil behind those taking love not only from the children, but the loving grandparents.
Bueno, solo queda esperar que su nieta cumpla la mayoria de edad, cuando llegue ese dia, seguramente querra saber de como fue su madre y ahi usted tendra toda la oprtunidad que las circunstancias le privaron, le deseo buena suerte.
Hi my story is similar I feel your pain my grandson is 7 autistic and nonverbal I was in his life every day taking care of him while my daughter and her husband worked for 7 years. Last year everything started changing my daughter became very angry and violent due to drugs eventually 5 months ago she threw me off the property and has refused me to see my grandson at all. The grief is sooo over whelming and there are days of nothing but tears, I do pray every day for him to be protected by Gods hand but it’s the not knowing if he is ok. Where I live grandparents have no rights not even for visitation. I know in my heart I will never see him again. And yes the holidays are going to be very hard. I’m reading about grandparents going through this for years I know now you’re pain and sorrow I wish and pray for all of us …
Hi, Julie, greetings from louisianna. My heart is going out to you. I know It’s been a couple of months since you posted this, and my reply may feel “late”
Please know that even when we can’t see it, God’s working. If you know the song Way maker listen to it often. Personally I find music very Powerful. It can change our focus quickly. Put on your radio in the car and elsewhere Air One.
Your child is a Prodical. I have two sons that fit that category. I don’t know if you’ve ever heard of a woman named Karen Wheaton but check out her you tube stuff on Prodicals.
This weekend. I just came away from the Grandparenting Summit and there was one of the men speakers who told his Prodical story. Drugs are soooo often involved. But victory can come.
Don’t lose hope. Ever. Nothing is to hard for our Father God.
Clarabelle
I am so sorry, Vida. Plus this time of year it is difficult because of all of the memories thru so many holidays spent together. Plus I have no idea why she, her spouse, my great grandson decided we are not worth it. But I am using prayer, communicating with other family. It is really difficult to not be bitter because I never knew what we did. So I try to not think about her & her spouse’s clan who absolutely adore her. That part hurts also.
I help my granddaughter from the time she was 16 and left home. I rented her apartments, paid her bills, brought her cars. Food and clothes. There’s nothing I didn’t help with cause I didn’t want her on the street. I babysitter for the two great grandchildren after she had them. Her and her husband lived with me for years. I helped her with her nursing school and him in jail for a few days. They are 11 and 17. She wants me out of their lives. Me and her don’t talk anymore. The oldest doesn’t text or call like she use to. The younger one will tell me he loves me, if his mom isn’t there. I feel so rejected. I have prayed for her and today I told my pastor we don’t talk and cut me out of their lives like I don’t exist. I feel bad because God says don’t speak about others. I feel guilty, but i feel so hurt. I ask God to forgive me. I’m 77 and never thought it Wayne like this.😥
The Tennessee department of Children Services have my three beautiful grandchildren, they are my best friends ever. I have no rights to them and our second Christmas is approaching as a ripped apart by evil and had no meaning other than a corrupt system with selfishness. My grandchildren were mostly taken care of by me, I’m they’re Grannie and to my youngest one, I can hear him still say to her everyday, “I LOVE YOU MANNIE. It’s almost paralyzing without my three grandchildren. I miss them more than life itself.
We are so sorry, may you sense God’s presence and peace surrounding you. May He keep your grandchildren safe.
The most important words here are ‘its not your fault’.
I am in a nearly identical situation. Yes, holidays especially difficult so i have picked up yet another counselor to talk with through the holidays. Take care of yourself, and if you have insurance get a counselor ,or if not ask a church for free services to help you find support. This is heartbreaking. Not easily understood. I hope we can all stay in touch on this thread. God bless you richly, he sees every tear and holds them in a bottle, thats what scripture says. Sending you a ((((HUG))))
Where did i go wrong?
My oldest daughter’s boyfriend doesn’t like my husband so he’s fought with him twice. My daughter takes his side and always says it’s us, we’ve let them live with us twice let the past go cause they need help and we don’t want our g-kids hurting. But Everytime he gets upset and leaves they don’t allow us to see our three grand daughters, my husband we super close to the oldest and youngest they were both born while living here stay for about a year and a half with each then that’s when he gets upset about something and leaves. It breaks my heart each time for me and to see my husband so hurt, I am broken without them. You go from doing everything for them school taking care while they work, to just nothing.
I know what you mean about going from doing everything for them to just about nothing. I saw my granddaughter take her first breath and raised her until June 15th when her mom took her from me and gave her to my oldest daughter who was a stranger to her. My heart is broken. My only hope is that in heaven we will be together as much as we want to be with Jesus also and our father is working all things out for good.
Thank you
My heart is lonely for my son
We are sorry for your situation. May God comfort your heart and ease the ache.
Please pray that I will be able to see my great grandchildren . It’s been 2 years . I hired an attorney and they just my 6k . I reached out to the other greatgrandma but no response. Iv prayed n prayed ! My heart is totally shattered a void so deep.
Praying with you Janie. Holidays are an especially hard time to be separated. Even though you cannot see them God can.
Eileen, keep praying for him, patently waiting for the Lord to work in him. I understand this and it is working. God is gracious and loves us and our sons.
My sons girlfriend kept my son in court from the time my grandson was 3 till he was 7 he is now going to be 12 years old this summer my son signed over his rights when my grandson was 7 because he couldn’t stand dragging his son in and out of court all it was doing was hurting my grandson and confusing him my son said he wasn’t gonna be a part of that pain any more and that hopefully he would get to see him again and tell him how much he loves him and explain to him that he deserved to have a stable happy life and that if he had to let him go for a while for that to happen then that’s what he did and he only pray that my grandson could forgive him for it my son is my only child he is my heart and it hurts me like I’ve have a fire burning inside my heart with so much anger and resentment and sadness and at one point even hate for my grandsons mother my grandson was the 3rd most precious gift from god and it gotten ripped away like a thief in the night one day i was telling him how much his nana loved him and then he was gone I’ve had a real problem in forgiving her for nearly destroying my son because he missed my grandson so deeply he tried to take his own life thinking it would be better for my grandson if he just wasn’t here anymore I will never forget my baby boy coming to my door that night with tears streaming down his cheeks and telling me what he had just tried to do to himself I was furious at her for not just ripping my grandson out of my life but almost loosing my son as well because of her I know I’m not supposed hate but I did hate her I tried so hard begging her to let me see my grandson. And she said there’s not one law that says she has to let me see my grandchild but I could sure try to take her to court if I wanted to it was then that I knew I probably won’t ever see my precious grandson again I don’t bring my grandson up to my son I wait for him to bring my grandson up to me I accidentally got to see a video of my grandson about a year ago and it was about him being saved and he was supposed to be going to be baptized I cryed when I seen it my prayer now is that he is able to turn his mother in the right direction to God because she’s been on the wrong road for a while I don’t hate her anymore I forgive her God I ask that you continue to keep me thank you for hearing me and to anyone that might read this I pray all Gods love forgiveness blessings be placed in your life
Thank you
My heart is lonely for my son
Please help me pray. I’m being kept from my 4 year old granddaughter with whom I shared a very close relationship. I saw her a month ago and she clung to me repeating over and over “I missed you so much”.
My heart is broken for both me and for her. I worry about what this is doing to her. For me it’s pretty much ruined my life. I cannot stop crying and wake up each day wishing I had died in my sleep. Please pray for me. I
I do the same but continue to wake up to heartbreak. It is devastating
May God comfort your soul and give you hope.
Please help me pray. I’m being kept from my 4 year old granddaughter with whom I shared a very close relationship. I saw her a month ago and she clung to me repeating over and over “I missed you so much”.
My heart is broken for both me and for her. I worry about what this is doing to her. For me it’s pretty much ruined my life. I cannot stop crying and wake up each day wishing I had died in my sleep. I pray everyday but I think I need others to pray with me.
I am in need of prayers for my family and my husband and myself to come together again in peace. Thank you!
Nothing has ever hurt so much.
My grandsons turns 21 this Tuesday. I’m struggling on if I should try & reach out one more time. He lives with our estranged son. It’s been 7 years. I miss them. I’ve forgiven them & myself.
Laura,
Thank you for reaching out. I have sent your heart concern on to Dr. Joannie DeBrito for some advice. If you do not hear back please contact me directly debd@legacycoalition.com. I am praying for you.
Thank you for your encouraging words. May God continue to work in and through you. I am sorry this response is so late. It was just sent on to me. May God mend relationships and restore strong family unit once more.
I just learned about this website and am so grateful for it. The stories in this blog here are very heartbreaking.
My daughter died 15 years ago of cancer and I had a very close relationship with my son-in-law and grandsons who were in
grade school at the time. Eventually my son-in-law remarried and his new wife gradually turned my grandsons away from me. Now as adults, I have found, they have turned on her. I continue to text them and try to call them with no response. I found out in a round-about-way) that the oldest is now engaged. No one called me to let me know. Yes my heart breaks, but I still believe in the words ‘….but God’. He is faithful and I know He is still in the ‘business’ of restoring broken relationships.
Yes He is! Praying for God to work in ways that only He can. May you see reconciliation.
Wow so many broken hearts.
My granddaughter has kept me from seeing my great-granddaughter for 3 years. I have no contact number or address for them. She doesn’t want anything to do with her mom’s family (my daughter) I have been praying that she would seek counseling
My heart aches for you. May God soften hearts and restore relationships.
Please pray that me and my husband may get to see our grandchildren and his children. I have never met them though I have been married to my husband for almost 16 years. There was something that happened back in 2004, and his daughter and step-daughter from a past marriage won’t see him or let us see his children. They are the only grandchildren I have, and step-children, and I very much want to meet them and lead them to Christ if they don’t already know him. Please pray they all come to Christ.
Please pray for me. I’ve been estranged from my son since 2020. I never believed I would have grandchildren so when my grandson was born in 2018, the gift of him was all the more precious. I love him so much but I only got to see him for the first 2 years of his life. Unfortunately, I, along with others, had concerns about his wellbeing and after trying unsuccessfully to discuss the issues with both parents and the maternal grandmother, I contacted social services. I was hated for it ( I can understand that, but my concern was for my grandson). My son has made it clear he wants no contact and that I’m not to buy or do anything for my grandson. He and his partner have since had another child, a girl who was born last September.
My daughter died in 2012 from the effects of cancer treatment. She was 20. Of course, I still mourn the loss of her but I have the comfort of knowing she is with Jesus. The grief I’ve felt from being separated from my grandson has killed something inside of me. I can’t explain it but I know it has changed me. On the other hand, I can see God working in my son’s life – he’s been sober for just over 2 years. I don’t think anyone could have seen that coming! But it gives me hope. There is a God in heaven who works all things together for good to them that love Him and are called according to His purpose.
Hi I am so sorry you are going though this My daughter died 4 years ago and the father of my grandkids won’t let me see my grandkids My grandson died and I was able to see him at the hospital dead I am not allowed to be with family when they had a hope walk. I pray everyday my for him I love my grandkids But I dont think I will be going to the funeral
Don’t wait around for grandchildren to return. I did and when he first contacted us through social media he was so condescending, and there was nothing we could say that was right. Now I just pray for him and his brother. Parents who alienate their children from grandparents and other family members are abusive parents. They will try and get our grandchildren to scorn us. Let them go and if you don’t have any other grandchildren that you have contact with (we have one and he is making us proud), then be a surrogate grandparent to a child in need. Also, focus on your own life, and give it to God.
I am praying that my son gets clarity regarding his family and wife. My son is married to a woman who despises his family. Strange as it sounds we aren’t meddlesome but loving. He is the only one working in his household ( she isn’t disabled she just pretend work is too overwhelming) and they have 3 small children infant to toddler. She doesn’t keep the home clean or cook. The hygiene of my grandchildren isn’t always maintained.
We never speak ill about her to my son or her. When asking about the children we include both of them and she is quick to say “no” as a form control.
I was only seeing my grandchildren 2 times a month and we live 10 mins away. I am crushed. Saying this is overwhelming is an understatement. We don’t make any demands on him and want him to be happy.
We bought them a car for transportation, give money, buy food and gifts and that irritates her. Her family does not help at all. When we do those things ( and we don’t talk about it) she gets irritated. She has made the statement to my son “it’s just us!”.
She is now insisting on staying a way and that he does so as well. Because the grandchildren love coming over she has forbade them to come to my home. She has verbalized she is jealous of my son’s closeness with his family. (Her mother is dead and she doesn’t interact with her siblings.). She says that we make things look easy and feels insecure and inadequate in comparison. We’ve never separated her but tried to embrace her. She doesn’t want to be loved.
I’ve held her hand, told her I love her, we never alienate her and try to provide her the support she needs but to no avail she picks apart every action.
We had a family meeting and he apologized for her behaviors over the years and explained that he wouldn’t be coming around for a while but that he loved us. We cried and embraced him, but what could we say.
My prayer is not that my son leave this woman but that God will open her eyes, mind and heart and see that this is wrong. I’m praying that the bond between my son, grandchildren, and us will be so strong that she cannot break or interfere. I pray all strongbholds of the enemy will broken and destroyed. I pray he will see her for what she truly is and get his house in order.
I pray whatever he shows him about his wife my son will be able to handle it. I pray that my son will have an overwhelming yearning for his family and not keep himself or his children away from us. I pray that the weapons she attempts to use with the enemy to destroy this family will not prosper. I pray God will show her how her jealousy has ruined her relationships, not just with this family, but others. I pray God will heal her of her narcissistic traits and that she will love my son the way God designed. I pray my son will love her as a husband should and to continue taking care of his family successfully. I pray that her lies about us are exposed and that she will have to repair the relationships she has broken.
I pray that God will heal our hurt and anger towards her and the feelings of hopelessness as a mother. God please heal her childhood hurts and pain. Please remove her jealousy towards us.
Restore my family and make us stronger than before. Cover my grandchildren and bless them to know us and know we love them. Blessings to our family. Prayers that we my prosper, have a hope and a future. It has been almost 5 months since I have seen my grandchildren. I’m broken and devastated.
Praying for you! May God show Himself mighty and powerful in your life as well as in your son’s family. Holidays make it especially hard.
We can relate to your situation as our daughter in law has put up similar walls, which she calls boundaries and will not allow us to spend more than a couple hours a month going out to dinner with them. It makes it very difficult for us to be able to have much influence on them with such little time. We are doing our best with what we have been given! We will be praying for all of you, that God will do a miraculous work in our families lives that we love so much, so that we may influence our Grand Treasures for Jesus!
Our adult daughter has come out as gay and is living with her partner and planning a “wedding” in Sept. She has not talked to us for a year because we disagree on this lifestyle…..We did not reject her, she rejected Us, saying if we cannot embrace who she is (meaning her sexual identity) then we don’t really love her. She has not allowed us to see our 4 grandchildren for 8 months now. We had a very close relationship with them and it is killing us not seeing them, being a part of their lives, hugging and loving on them. All we can do is send letters, no phone calls, texts, facetime, etc.
I pray continually, but I also cry continually. We trust that God is in control but I cannot seem to get a rein on my sadness, I miss them so much.
I am so sorry you are experiencing this. You may want to seek the help of your pastor, trusted godly friend, or even a Christian counselor to help you with your sadness.
Since my first grandchild was born there has always been favouritism toward the maternal grandparents. Most of their early growing up years all three of my granddaughters have been kept away from my husband (who is not their real grandfather and myself).
The other grandparents go on many holidays with them caravanning and some overseas ones too. Yet, in contrast my granddaughters have been allowed to stay over for just one night or at the most two nights on an occasional school holiday but that’s all we’re allowed and they have a very busy schedule during the term with dancing comps so never see them then either or get invited to comps. My grandchildren don’t answer my texts and my heart breaks when I think of the years that we (myself, husband and our daughter) have been robbed of my family’s time and affection. I love them all so very much yet as they get older (16, 13 and 9) it seems they are becoming less interested in us. I pray for them every day that Jesus will draw them all close to Him and keep them safe. Though we’re only 20 minutes away we don’t get invited to any of their birthday parties or concerts (only three in 16 years now) we just pop over on their birthday for a cuppa and cupcake. I have tried to get close to my daughter in law and I’m always kind and interested in her and have asked a few times if we can meet up for a lunch or coffee but there’s always an excuse so I don’t bother asking anymore and my son tells me if I complain or make another text comment to him that we don’t see them enough he will cut me off (completely estrange me)
My son and I used to be very close from the time he was 10 months old to age 19 it was just we two as a single parent family and he used to be a Christian. I have invited the other grandparents to Christmas and picnics they came to one but they don’t want to reach out to us. Christmas occasions can be just awkward and uncomfortable with my son and daughter in law but my grandchildren and I have had a lot of fun and special moments on the rare times when their parents aren’t around. So I don’t bother asking my daughter in laws parents anymore they are really strangers to us, for years it has been like this. My heart breaks and I cry a lot when I think of my son and grandchildren (it hurts when I see so many friends and family so close to their grandchildren and wonder what K have done wrong, I know I have tried my very best to reach out to them but I’m trying now with the help of the Lord to be just thankful for the rare times we do see them and thankful that the communication lines are still open even if it’s only when it suits my son and his wife and so long as I don’t complain to them. I will just keep showering them with love when I do see them.
Is so sad to read all these heartbreaking stories
I myself going through it and I am not giving up I will fight for my precious 5 year old granddaughter till my last breath
The system approved his alcoholic father to take her from my house
He is destroying her in every way
I miss my adult son and grandchild and not sure what to do. I cry when I hear children play or see them with their grandparents, I cry uncontrollably in my sleep because of not being permitted to see him. I was at the hospital when my grandchild was born and was his caregiver , he is now 7 years old. My daughter in law left my son in 2022 to find herself, with the family not knowing where to locate her. I took on her role and took my grandchild to his doctor’s appointment and registered him for school, everything that his mother should have been doing. My grandchild was having behavior problems at school and finally after 6 years was diagnosed with ADHD and Autism. Long story short, my grandchild’s mother comes back, tells my son not to let us see him, then calls the police and school with a made-up awful story to saying that my grandchild’s grandfather molested him. Now we can’t see our grandchild, have legal issues and was harassed by the police. I do know that my grandchild is hurting just as much as we are, with no end in sight. Please say a prayer for our family.
Praying for you, May truth reign and may relationships be restored.
My son passed away in July of 2023, leaving behind a 6 year old child. He and her mother we separated and shared custody. We saw them every other weekend almost since she was born. When my son got sick the mother was very good at allowing the daughter to have extra visits we her dad, he was staying with us. When he passed away we actually had her until the funeral. We were able to take her away in October over our thanksgiving weekend and she had a good time. At one point prior to this her mother told us that she would never take her from our lives. Thanksgiving was the last time that we saw our her and October 28th was the last time we talked to her on the phone. I had 3 children, daughter passed away in 2007 with no kids then my son in 2023. My 3rd child does not want children so this is my only grandchild.I can not afford a lawyer to go to court but did speak to one. She started that we could go to court, be granted visitation possibly one day a month for a few hours, no over night visits. But in Ontario the do not register this with the courts so the mother could decide not to follow the order and we would have to start all over again. The other problem is that we do not know where she lives so it is hard to serve any papers or even send card to my granddaughter. I often wonder what I did wrong to have so much grief in my life time. It almost feels that when we buried my son we buried our granddaughter as well.
I have been dealing with a very frustrating and emotionally draining situation with my daugher and her husband for about 4 years. Every since they had a child together he has controlled the situation and I have been unable to have the grandchildren at my home. His mother gets all the time in the world and sleepovers.
My daugther constantly makes excuses for this and makes it into a jealousy issue manipulating the situation to help excuse his behaviors. My mother and I were involved in my grandsons life for the first 4 years until the marriage came about. This is not his biological son.
We were slowly cut out, with everything we did becoming a problem ( reason) to take away all visits until we could only visit at their home.
Then my daugher finds issues with the visits when we are there. To the point the walking on eggshells and uncomfortable vibes have become more than I can take.
I asked her to go to counseling and she agreed but becuase of her 3 kids and work she seems to not have time to work things out.
My mother lost her son, my brother and our grandson was such a bright light in her life. She is in her seventies now and this has totally broken her heart for many reasons.
I ask if anyone could please keep us in your prayers as I will with your families.
We can relate to your situation as our daughter in law has put up similar walls, which she calls boundaries and will not allow us to spend more than a couple hours a month going out to dinner with them. It makes it very difficult for us to be able to have much influence on them with such little time. We are doing our best with what we have been given! We will be praying for all of you, that God will do a miraculous work in our families lives that we love so much, so that we may influence our Grand Treasures for Jesus!