My daughter and her husband have left the Christian faith and they insist on us not praying with their children or playing Christian music in their presence. I feel like I betray my faith when I don’t pray. It’s just part of who I am. Is it ok for me to pray with them when they are at my home or play music in my car?
While this can be heartbreaking for grandparents, the goal is to keep the relationship with your children and grandchildren going well in order to be able to continue to be a part of their lives. Therefore, it is important to respect your daughter’s requests.
However, this should not discourage you from praying for your children and grandchildren and talking with them about your experience with God and the Lord. Nobody can control what you share about your life or keep you from answering questions honestly, from your perspective.
So, while you should refrain from praying with your grandchildren and playing Christian music around them, you have the right to continue to share how your faith informs and contributes to your life.
As they ask questions about challenges in life, you can talk to your grandchildren about how you cope by turning to scripture, praying, or going to church.
I don’t recall my grandparents lecturing me about Christianity or trying to force a decision of faith on me. I do, however, remember listening to their stories of God’s influence on their lives and observing how they managed life. I noticed that they had a sense of peace and fulfillment that I didn’t see in many other people.